The words fantasies, and wishes, are not in the Bible. I know, because I once wanted to know what God thought about them, and hunted for them. In Shattered Hopes Renewed Hearts Dr. Maribeth Ekay lays out in simple terms and explanations the answers that I sought. Psychologists may use other terms, but this approach opens understanding in a wonderfully clear way.
Dr. Ekay shows how we wish even as infants, and when these are not met we respond in several predictable ways, such as spitting, spoiling, or wishing for an ideal. Some mourn chronically in depression or bitterness and some suffer shame.
Permission to mourn these early losses is a major plus of this book. After accepting our losses, we can see our lives more honestly and learn to invest ourselves in healthy and effective dreams and plans, p lans that line up with God's will, and make us fulfilled and fruitful in Christ. Ekay lays this all out so plainly anyone can understand and apply the counsel. I'm sure she will be much in demand to speak on this topic, and many will be helped by the book alone. May their numbers be legion.