Ruth Marlene Friesen: Welcome!
This site is like Ruthe,
the heroine of my novel,
Ruthe's Secret Roses
Ruthe is . . .
intimate with God,
prays a lot,
a bleeding heart for the hurting,
a big sister,
has creative ideas,
likes to give
loyal to friends,
dreams of love and
dreams of writing a book
goes the extra mile
So this site offers;
good books to read!
help to become Friends with Jesus,
The One Ideal Real Friend
a cure for loneliness
An Older Sister's Coping Secret
how to pray Panic Prayers,
how to grow in faith
how to share your faith
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Tips for Women - on Staying Safe
The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm
out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This
has saved lives.
Last night I attended a personal safety workshop, and it jolted me. It was given by an amazing man,
Pat Malone, who has been a body guard for famous figures like Farrah Fawcett and Sylvester
Stallone. He works for the FBI, and teaches police officers and Navy SEALS hand-to-hand combat.
This man has seen it all, and knows a lot. He focused his teachings to us on HOW TO AVOID
BEING THE VICTIM OF A VIOLENT CRIME.
He gave some statistics about how much the occurrences of random violence have escalated! over the
recent years, and it's terrible. Something like 99% of us will be exposed to, or become a victim of
a violent crime. Here are some of the most important points that I got out of his presentation:
1.) The three reasons women are easy targets for random acts of violence are:
(a.) Lack of Awareness You MUST know where you are & what's going on around you.
(b.) Body Language Keep your head up, swing your arms, stand straight up.
(c.) Wrong Place, Wrong Time, DON'T walk alone in an alley, or drive in a bad neighborhood
2.) Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just
sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.). DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be
watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in the passenger side, put a gun
to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK DOORS AND
(a.) A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage: Be aware: look
around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
(b.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial
killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to
get into their cars.
(c.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male
is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work,
and get a guard/ policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY.
(Better paranoid than dead.)
(3.) ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be
alone and the perfect crime spot).
(a.) Do not get on an elevator if there is a weirdo already on there. (Of course bad men don't
always look bad).
(b.) Do not stand back in the corners of the elevator, be near the front, by the doors, ready to
get off or on.
(c.) If you get on the elevator on the 25th floor, and someone suspicious gets on the 22nd, get off
when he gets on.
4) If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!
a.) Police only make 4 of 10 shots when they are in range of 3-9 feet. This is due to stress.
b.) The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely
WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
5.) As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or
(a.) Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man who ALWAYS played
on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for
help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
(b.) Pat Malone told us the story of his daughter, who came out of the mall and was walking to her
car when she noticed 2 older ladies in front of her. Then she saw a police car come towards her
with cops who said hello. She also noticed that all 8-handicap spots in the area were empty. As she
neared her car she saw a man a few rows over calling to her for help. He wanted her to close his
passenger side door. He was sitting in the driver's side, and said he was handicapped. He continued
calling, until she turned and headed back to the mall, and then he began cursing at her. In the
meantime, she wondered why he didn't ask the 2 older ladies, or the policeman for help, and why he
was not parked in any of the empty handicap spots. As she got back to the mall, two male friend of
hers were exiting, and as she told them the story, and turned to point at the car, another man was
getting out of the back seat into the front, and the car sped away.
DON'T GET CAUGHT IN THIS TRAP.
(6.) Tips to saving your life, if you have gotten into a violent situation:
a.) REACT IMMEDIATELY If he abducts you in a parking lot, and is taking you to an abandoned
area, DON'T LET HIM GET YOU TO THAT AREA. If you are driving, react immediately in the
situation, and crash your car while still going 5 mph. If he's driving, find the right time, and
stick your fingers in his eyes. He must watch the road, so choose an unsuspecting time, and gouge
him. It is your ONLY defense. While he is in shock, GET OUT.
(This sounds gross, but the alternative is your fault if you do not act.)
(b.) RESIST Don't go along with him: run, if you are able: DON'T EVER GIVE UP! You DO
NOT want to get to a crime scene.
(7.) Always keep your distance when walking past strangers on the street or in dark areas.
(8.) GET A CELL PHONE.
(a.) There are packages for $19.95 a month that allows you to program only 911 into the dialing out
program. (This is an alternative for parents who say it is too expensive for their kids to have a
(9.) BREAK DOWNS: Make every effort to avoid this by ALWAYS keeping your car in good
(a.) If your car breaks down: LOCK YOUR DOORS. You better have a cell phone to call for
(b.) If you don't have a cell phone: (shame on you) keep a blanket, warm clothes, a pair of boots,
and a flashlight in your car always, for emergencies.
(c.) If it's noon on a business day, you may want to put your hazards on and walk to safety.
(d.) If it's 2 a. m, put on your warm clothes, and walk to a lighted area. You are a perfect target
if you are sitting in your car broken down. Predators search the highways for easy targets like
(e.) If you're on a desolate road: walk away from the car (in your warm clothes) and go to some
bushes, or some area AWAY from your vehicles. It will be cold, and uncomfortable, but you
DO NOT want to stay in your car, and there are no psycho bogeymen waiting in the bushes who knew
you were going to break down there and then.
10.) Physical defenses that we can use against the violent predator:
(a.) The EYES are the most vulnerable part of the body. Poke him there. HARD. It may
be your, only window of opportunity.
(b.) The neck is also a vulnerable spot, but you MUST know where to grip, AND HAVE THE
STRENGTH to cut off his breath.
(c.) The last place is the KNEES. Everyone's knees are very vulnerable, and a swift kick
here will take anyone down. A cautionary note about these things. If you do not do these things
right the first time, you are in trouble, because it will only anger the individual, and that anger
will be TAKEN OUT ON YOU. I'm not saying don't attempt them (it may be your only hope), but
be forceful when you do.
(11.) If you are walking alone in the dark (which you shouldn't be) and you find him
(a.) Scream "FIRE!", and not "help". People don't want to get involved when people yell
"help", but "fire" draws attention because people are nosy.
(c.) Find an obstacle, such as a parked car, and run around it, like Ring Around the Rosie. This
may sound silly, but over the years, 5 women have told Pat Malone that this SAVED THEIR
(d.) Your last hope is getting under the car. Once you are under there, there are tons of things
to hold on to, and he will not be able to get you out and will not come under for you (most likely).
Usually they give up by this point. The catch here is that YOU MUST PRACTICE GETTING UNDER THE
You must have a plan (he will have one); know if you will be going on your back, front, from the
side or back of the car. It must be practiced.
(12.) Never let yourself or anyone that you know be a "closer" in any type of business (bar, store,
restaurant, gas station). Pat knew Danielle, who was a girl that just died from being shot
pointblank by some kids while she was closing at the local gas station. He talked with her the
night before she died, and asked whether it ever scared her to close alone. She said yes, but said
"I'll be all right, Pat. I'll be all right." She wasn't.
Our world is not as safe as we pretend that it is, and living in our fantasy worlds WILL get us in
trouble, sooner or later. Pat Malone said again and again that the women who die EVERY
MINUTE from violent crimes expected go to bed tonight, and get! up tomorrow. No one expects it,
but we must be prepared and aware so that we HAVE A PLAN. BE PREPARED TO ACT! AND ACT
HARD! HAVE A PLAN!
I would encourage you to pass this on to all women, not just your friends and family, but everybody.
We all need to hear it.
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