Ruth Marlene Friesen: Welcome!
This site is like Ruthe,
the heroine of my novel,
Ruthe's Secret Roses
Ruthe is . . .
intimate with God,
prays a lot,
a bleeding heart for the hurting,
a big sister,
has creative ideas,
likes to give
loyal to friends,
dreams of love and
dreams of writing a book
goes the extra mile
So this site offers;
good books to read!
help to become Friends with Jesus,
The One Ideal Real Friend
a cure for loneliness
An Older Sister's Coping Secret
how to pray Panic Prayers,
how to grow in faith
how to share your faith
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I come to the garden alone, while the dew is still on the roses, and the voice I hear, falling on my ear.... Ruthe's Secret Roses illustrates that dear song!
Watching your friend die is HARD, isn't it? Ruthe handles it fairly well for her first time. You should read this book - you could learn from her.
Need a Friend? You'll soon think of Ruthe as your friend, when you read Ruthe's Secret Roses
The Value Of Simplicity
by Nancy Roebke
There's a common misconception out there in the business arena. I call it the "Bigger is Better"
myth. That's what I call it, but it actually encompasses more than just the issue of "size". It
encompasses choice. It encompasses image. And it encompasses reality.
I'm 44 and have had my own business since I was nineteen. Not the same business but "a" business. I
have three kids (two sons - 23 and 19, and a daughter -21). They come into play in this story, so I
All of my businesses, except the current one, were retail businesses. I sold products of one kind
or another. My "favorite" business, which I feel was my "soul business" (next to what I do now), was
a custom gift shop that specialized in home interiors and wedding "stuff". I "lost" that business.
I think I still "grieve" about that today. I lost it because I bought into the idea that "bigger is
I ran BIG ads, in newspapers and the yellow pages. I hired lots of help. I wholesaled to HUGE
accounts. I had two locations for retail. I had forty locations across the country for wholesale. I
was well-known in my area, and in certain places across the country. I brought in lots-o- money. I
spent lots-o-money. I made lots-o-money. I had no quality of life.
This particular business directly lead serious changes in my life. Not because of "what" business it
was. But because of what it took to HAVE all of that. I could have had what I wanted from that
business on a smaller scale and still HAVE that business. And not have suffered through those
changes. And still be at peace.
Today, I run a multi-national firm. It does not encompass my whole life. I have been called
"practical" on almost every forum I participate on online.. and in many forms of print media. I
consider it the highest compliment I have ever been given. My "practicality" has helped me "have it
Today, the people in my town think I'm a country girl. They have no idea about my multi-national
firm. I grow, can and freeze my own vegetables. I LOVE to garden. I make jelly- and bake bread- from
scratch. I LOVE to cook from scratch. I paint and wallpaper my home, and have learned how to do all
sorts of repairs and maintenance. I make most of the holiday gifts I give, and love EVERY second of
My work is done with passion. That passion comes through (at least I am told) in everything I do
that is work-related. But I don't buy the "bigger is better" myth any more. I think as long as
enough people do, it will continue to prosper (the myth, I mean). Here's what I DON'T do that most
business gurus say I should:
1. I don't run ads. None. Of Any kind. Even my web site is educational versus advertising.
2. You won't find my firm in the phone book.
3. I don't have slick marketing material. Everything is printed off inkjet printers so I can make
frequent changes if I want to.
4. I don't hire employees.
5. I don't stock a lot of inventory.
6. I don't buy everything for the firm "new" and do not keep up with the latest technology.
7. I don't have a direct line to me. People have to leave messages.
8. I don't work 24/7 any more.
9. I don't take everyone on as a client who wants to be.
10. I don't focus on getting bigger as a goal- Not in my Chapters or as a company. (And it happens
1. Market through word of mouth.
2. Have a multiple email addresses.
3. Make changes to my material so that it is always up to date.
4. Hire subcontractors.
5. Buy inventory "just" as we need it.
6. Lease equipment and update what we have instead of buying new.
7. Return my calls promptly.
8. Balance my work day and my non-work day.
9. Select my clients based on their ethics and standards.
10. Evaluate every opportunity to grow, to see what that growth will mean in the form of costs,
time, and upkeep.
What does that mean? I have more. More time. More money. More peace. More happiness. MUCH more
satisfaction. I have lots more STUFF!
Which brings me to my kids. I hope that I have passed on to them the belief that bigger is not
necessarily better. My oldest son wanted a Nike baseball cap for twenty bucks, when one without the
insignia was ten. I said I'd never pay extra for an "insignia." I still won't.
I also won't pay extra to a supplier so they can have a bigger office, a nicer car, a better
wardrobe, or a nicer house. I got all that by having LESS.
Less stress. Less responsibility. Less time committed to my business. Less.
I feel we are a wasteful society. We not only waste our resources, but we waste our time. Even if a
person recycles to help with the environment, how are they recycling their LIFE? Do you feel it's
necessary to own everything new? Do you have a need for the most recent gadget? Do you live and work
outside your "stress level"? Do you live and work outside your income? Do you need to keep up with
Why? Who's gonna stop it, if you don't? I recently met a couple who made $150,000.00 a year, who
were so stressed out... so unhappy... and so in debt.
Dr Robert Schueller did a presentation once that struck me. It was called "When your blessings
become burdens". He spoke of what we have to do to keep all we have gotten. Think about what you
have gotten and what you need to do to keep it. If it's all worth it, you have got it all, as well.
Way to go!! I applaud you!
A lot of you know that I was in a serious car accident that left me permanently "differently-abled".
There was a lawsuit. A multi-million dollar one. I dropped it. I couldn't do what it took to go
through with it. I got no money from that accident.
I dropped the case the day after Thanksgiving in 1996. Since that time, I have gotten a bigger house
than I have ever had. A bigger car than I have ever had. A bigger wardrobe. More food. More STUFF!!
And a much better significant other.
But that all happened because I stopped going after the BIG one. And found tremendous success in my
REALITY. What I WANTED to do. Not what I thought I NEEDED to do.
I hope that all of us can come to that point... It is a place with rewards past your wildest dreams.
Your place may not include a garden, and wallpaper, and baking bread. It may include MILLIONS of
dollars (if that is what will make you feel at peace). You can do it. I know. I did. I believe in
you. May you have all that you have worked for... for less.
Nancy Roebke is Editor of NetworkInk, a weekly ezine on how to do business by networking with
others - that is, helping others, and being helped by them. She is also owner of
Profnet.org and you should especially try the Personality
Test on Profnet.org/person2.html to see how
you can develop stronger business relationships and networking skills.
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