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This site is like Ruthe, the heroine of my novel, Ruthe's Secret Roses

Ruthe is . . .
intimate with God,
prays a lot,
a bleeding heart for the hurting,
a big sister,
rescues friends,
has creative ideas,
likes to give surprise gifts,
loyal to friends,
dreams of love and marriage,
dreams of writing a book
goes the extra mile

So this site offers;
good books to read!
help to become Friends with Jesus,
The One Ideal Real Friend
a cure for loneliness
An Older Sister's Coping Secret
how to pray Panic Prayers,
& regularly/daily
how to grow in faith
Christian mentoring,
how to share your faith

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Kathy Wollf's Personal Rules for
Friendship & Worthy Words

Ask for the character of Christ

1. I frequently ask the Lord to let the character of Christ shine in and through me, and for the His Holy Spirit to control me. My own words are so inadequate, but the Lord can add His love, wisdom and mercy to touch the spirit of the person I'm talking to.

Not that we are competent to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. ...And we, who with unveiled faces all refelect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit. (2 Cor. 3:5 and 18)

Accept the other person

2. I try to see and accept the person behind the behaviour by reminding myself that strange or destructive behaviour is often the only defense system people have found to deal with pain or weakness.

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. (2 Tim. 1:7)

Resist Gossip

3. Gossip is something I try to resist. My first tactic is to point out something positive about the person being gossiped about. If this doesn't change the tone of conversation, I try to change the subject. If that fails I may even leave the room because once I hear the gossip, it makes it hard not to repeat it.

Don't grumble against each other, brothers, or you will be judged. The Judge is standing at the door! (James 5:9)

Learn from Others

4. Remember that no two people can share all the same experiences. That means each person I meet has experienced something I have not, and therefore has something to teach me out of those experiences. I have to bite my tongue, be quiet, and learn something new.

Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. (Rom. 12:16)

Use Words to Build up Others

5. Our words are powerful! They can be used to build up or tear down. I try to use my words in such a way as to build up by encouraging, praising and repeating only that which is positive or helpful.

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. (1 Thess. 5:11)

See Others from God's Perspective

6. There is something special about each person on earth because God has created each one for the purpose of fellowship with Himself. Each one of us is a gift to Himself and He delights in each one. If God feels this way about my relative, my co-worker, my neighbour and my acquaintance, should I not have a similar desire to get to know them better? To find out what makes them so special that the God who rules the universes wants to spend time with them?

In Him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of Him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will. (Eph. 1:11)

Remember God's Patience with me

7. When I sense myself becoming impatient with, or intolerant of someone I have only to remind myself how kind and patient the Lord has been with me. If this doesn't change my attitude, nothing will.

Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, tolerance and patience, not realizing that God's kindness leads you toward repentance? (Rom. 2:4)

Show Empathy

8. Show empathy. If someone is going through a difficult time listen carefully to what they are saying and learn what God wants you to do about it. Maybe all He wants you to do is listen, or maybe He will clue you in on some other resource you have to share with that person. On the other hand, if someone is happy, then forget about your own troubles long enough to rejoice with them.

If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion,... Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.(Phil. 2:1 and 4)

Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.(Rom. 12:15).

Receive God's Love Even Through Others

9. Receive God's love each day through His word and prayer, and through other people when it is offered. Accept graciously. Then we are also ready to show love to others.

And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect harmony. (Col.3:14)

For great is your love, reaching to the heavens; your faithfulness reaches to the skies. ( Psalm 57:10).

It All Starts with Right Thoughts and Forgiveness

10. If our thoughts are right and pure, our words will be right and pure. God tells us to think about things that are pure and lovely and to dwell on the good things in others. We are to think about all we can praise God for and be glad about. If I was always doing these things, I would never again need to apologize for the words I speak. In the meantime, the Lord extends His forgiveness to me, and asks me to do the same for others.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whaterver is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things. (Phil. 4:8)

But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man 'unclean.' For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. (Matt. 15:18,19)

Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (Col.3:13).


Thanks ever so much, Kathy! These thoughts really blessed me as I studied them earlier this year. I trust they will minister again to someone else.

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